The thing about inner pain is that, for the mind, it is hard to comprehend if it cannot be seen and dealt with like a physical pain.That is why, from the mind’s point of view, there are two choices: either numb it with drugs, alcohol, sex etc. or create a physical pain which then makes sense and could have a “solution”. The thing about inner pain is that it requires something that the mind cannot give. It requires the Being, not the physical human, to be present with it, to hold it, to acknowledge it and to let the experience, the emotion, the feeling, the…call it as you may… come, destroy what it needs to destroy and go. Destruction, maintenance and creation. That is the constant cycle of everything inner and outer. If we are stuck in one of those “stages”, life does not flow anymore and nothing new can show up.